Motherhood is one of the most rewarding things that you will ever do. There is no better feeling than bringing a child into this world that you have created, loved, and cared for.
Though every mother says it, you never know how brilliant being a mother is until you experience it for yourself. Even though motherhood can be very rewarding, it isn’t always positive.
Even if you don’t want to admit it, your life changes quite a lot when you become a mother. In the past, you didn’t really need to think about anyone but yourself, but now you have a whole other life to focus on and care for.
This means that you can’t do a lot of the things that you used to do before you became a mom. Before having a child to care for full time, you could do things spontaneously, stay out until all hours and see your friends whenever you want to.
However, when you become a mom, you have to think about childcare and everything you do takes a lot of planning before you do it. Some of the friends that you would spend time with previously may not have children of their own and so they might not want to spend time with you when you have your child with you, which may feel unfair, but it is just the way it is, unfortunately.
If your social life has had a big change since you had a child, you may be feeling quite lonely. This is only normal and it is something that a lot of new mothers experience. Your hormones are all over the place when you have just given birth and so any sad feelings that you may be experiencing are only intensified.
If you want more of social life, but you have to constantly care for your child, something that I would recommend is becoming friends with more moms. Other moms know exactly what you are going through and they are open to doing activities that include your children.
If you don’t really know any other mothers, you may not know how to go about making friends with them. Here is how to make friends with more moms and gith loneliness.
Join Baby Groups
A great way to meet more moms is by joining some baby groups. No matter where you are from, you are very likely to find a group that was specially made to bring mothers together.
You can usually find your local baby groups online and they are free to join. If you have never been to one of these groups before, they are basically an opportunity for new mothers to meet up with their children.
While their babies play, the women usually have a cup of tea and talk about their lives. Sometimes moms can feel afraid to reach out to people without kids, as they don’t want to bother them. However, when you speak to someone that has had the same experiences as you, they will be able to offer you advice and they will not mind listening to your worries.
If you get on with the people that you meet at the mom group, you can arrange to meet up outside of the group and get to know each other better.
Arrange Nights Out For Moms That You Meet
Though moms love being around their children, they all deserve a break every now and again. Moms deserve to have a night out where they don’t feel as though they are nothing more than just a parent.
Though moms want a night like this, not all of them have the time or the energy to organize it. If you have the time, you could be the mom that does this. You can reach out to moms in your mother’s group and see if they are up for a night on the town. If there are several of you in need of childcare, you could agree to sort out childcare between you.
Some moms may not be up for a night on the town drinking, as you can feel exhausted a lot of the time when you are caring for a child.
If this is the case, you can arrange to do something else that allows you to have fun and blow off steam. For example, you could have a fun quiz night at one of your homes. By having a little get-together at someone’s house, you can also bring your babies with you and put them down for a rest in a separate room.
If you like the idea of hosting a little quiz night for your mom’s friends, I would recommend taking a look at this list of trivia questions and picking some for yourself. You can then use these to test your friends and whoever gets the most points can get a little prize.
